Hello, susan888. Are you able to talk to him about this? Would he be amenable to counseling? If he will not work with you to make the relationship better, perhaps you need to ask yourself the Ann Landers' question: Would I be better off with him or without him?

If you are unsure of the answer to Ann's question, is therapy an option for you? Therapy may help reduce the stress. You should not have to live with someone who makes your life so difficult.

I wish you the best.