Hi Seventyeight,

I am familiar with this. I called my T a few weeks ago and said something similar... I think I said, "You don't have to call me back, I would like you to but if you are busy then you don't have to." (Mixed messages). So she didn't call. Ack. I was sooo sad. But when I got to the next session she said, "You have to ask for what you need. You said I didn't have to call back, so I didn't." Ugh. At the time I was pissed. But it has gotten me to try harder to ask for what I need. So today when I was a *little* more clear and said, "I would like for you to call me back. If you are too busy, I will understand, but I would like to hear from you." It's tiring. I know this comes from my wanting to take up as little space as possible. But I think I get it...
Maybe your T wants you to be specific... To say "call me today, please!" if you need her to call.
On the other hand I know T's are only human. Sometimes they just don't get to messages until late or until the next day... which feels so unfair.