Bluesummers,
Sometimes I think it's just the luck of the draw with people. We try to do our best, within our own capacity. I think that in some situations, outside influences make a lot of difference in how two people interact on any given moment or situation.

And I know for myself, as badly as I want caring and understanding from folks, sometimes as much as they want to give it, their life is giving them so much trouble that even if they try, it comes out wrong. And I know that I can ask for a hug, and then almost physically fight against it if it's given, even with the best of intentions.

And of course, there are folks who simply say what they believe they "should" say, but when it comes down to actually doing anything, forget it.

It hurts when it happens to us, especially for those of us who are really needing comfort and support. I try to just accept that people can only be who and what they are. And if they disappoint me too many times and I can, I move on. It's a matter of weighing the positives and negatives of being around that person.

Hugs!