I don't think that it was abuse but it was a great disservice to you. Childhood is for development and this development includes learning who you are, how to do things, how to make decisions, etc. For whatever reason, your mom didn't allow this to happen for you. You can still learn how to do all of these things, though. Start with what you need to learn and develop, and go from there. You can start a thread here on it or talk to your T or both?