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Old Oct 23, 2010, 04:28 AM
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Originally Posted by treehouse View Post
When I finally did look at him, I got what he meant. There was T, there I was, and I didn't have to hide, or not let him "see" me. He looked at me with acceptance and caring.

There IS something very vulnerable about looking into someone's eyes - or rather, letting them look into mine. For me, in T, allowing that vulnerability and having the EXPERIENCE of not "dying", not being hurt, not being abandoned, was huge.
its funny cause when i think of what is the very worst that could happen if we looked at each other, i always come back to seeing him smile at me and i end up fully losing it and becoming very violent towards him. which sounds like a dad related thing (he is a violent person). will need to think about that some more.

and yeah experiencing the vulnerability of things in t is huge.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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