Googley, I understand what you are saying. There may be deep reasons linked to very early childhood that keeps you in fear of disagreement. A big part of child developement at two years of age is when the child learns how to say "NO" for the first time. Healthy parents realize that a child at this age is discovering his/her voice. It is normal and healthy for the child to experiment with "NO" at this age.

What can happen though is that if a parent over-reacts to the child at this stage, they can cause a child to feel that if "NO" is said, punishment results. Or the parent removes love. That causes harm. A good parent will allow the two year old to say "NO" without removing love from them or harming them. They may not accept "No" for an answer, but the child is never denied love for having a voice.