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Originally Posted by Bridger
Let me start answering your question by saying that I can read people with great ease...
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You'd mentioned that earlier. I was wondering how you check how accurate your readings are. These examples probably don't apply to you but how do you rule out that they could?
1. I've known people, including members of my family and on occasion myself, to decide somehow that another person was harboring good or ill intentions, therefore was trustworthy or untrustworthy, friend or foe, good or wicked. Any further "reading" of them would then be done through that filter. When they did something that didn't square with our "model" of them, we'd come up with an explanation: a good person having a bad day and saying things they didn't really mean, or a bad person putting on an act to lull others' suspicions of them. How do you tell that you're actually reading the other person, not imposing your preconceptions on them?
2. I've occasionally, in my teens and twenties especially, had others form preconceptions of me, then found myself playing along and even cultivating the image they had of me in order to be halfway accepted and not make waves. If someone I considered more knowledgeable than myself speculated that I was unconsciously thinking or wishing something, I'd go out of my way first to dredge up evidence that they might be right, then to rely on their conclusion for guidance on what I should do next. How do you tell whether or not the people you "read" are eager to play along and make you right?
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I've often suprised myself in the past by thinking of doing one thing and then doing something else.
... I reached down, took the money, thought, awesome,... and then I called out after the woman and gave her the money. I didn't see that one coming.
I can't read myself unless there is an externalized expression of it, such as there is in action, or in writing. It helps me to understand myself better.
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I'm not at all surprised.
We can
think pretty much anything we want to about ourselves. It's what we say, and even more what we
do, that defines us. If you formulate a principle that broke teenagers can always be counted on to hang on to found money, better be prepared to find that there are exceptions -- and that you could even be one yourself.
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And that is what I am here for, to understand myself better, and to give those who are interested in knowing a chance to understand and interact with my type.
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We-e-e-e-ell, OK...
but what if we were to forget about your "type" and approach you as a unique individual instead?