Sorry this is happening ((salukigirl)). What would happen if you said "how about you do all those things yourself? Is one of his parents overly critical? Let him know you don't need another father and it's a turnoff when he acts like a dad. You could let him kow in advance you're going to try this exercise - for one day, you're going to be him and he's you - then you let him feel what it's like to have someone nit pick your every move.