What you need to understand first is that alcoholism is a disease that controls people. No matter how he feels about you, the drinking takes over. You need to realize that he is not the same person while he's drinking and he may actually love you and WANT to stop but doesn't know how or where to start. Have you talked to him about rehab, counseling or AA? Bringing that up and seeing his reaction can tell you alot about his true feelings and intentions. But also understand that even if he does stop he will always be an alcoholic. My aunt hasn't had a drink in over 15 years but still considers herself and alcoholic because all it takes is one drink to send you back to square one. If he truly wants to try then you need to understand what comes along with that kind of relationship. If you don't think you are ready to deal with the things that come with the territory then do yourself a favor and move on.