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co-dependent enmeshment

Examples of some expectations that the core belief of "I am unlovable" may fuel and or support are; "you owe me", "it's not my fault", it's not my responsibility, it's up to you, "I can't meet my own needs", feeling like a victim, feeling helpless, not being in touch with one's excruciating pain of loss etc and instead being very quick to rage at the first sign of closeness, distancing behaviour, martyr behaviour, co-dependent enmeshment (Melody Beattie), expecting to be rescued by others, not taking personal responsibility.