Of course he would, and what a typical abuser "line" (of malarcky!).

I am sorry this happened to you. I'm glad you are out of that relationship and I hope it hasn't soured you on the idea of good therapy. Regression doesn't have to mean acting out younger states, but rather it's about thinking and responding without the defenses we acquire along the way.

I originally craved a hug from my therapist, and asked and was gently refused. I have learned there are other ways to connect that are wonderful. Wanting comfort is still there for me, but sometimes I can feel that in the relationship. Other times, I still want that hug. But now I want it in addition to talking (had a hard time talking the first year) and not in place of talking.