Thanks you guys. I guess you are right. Its taken about 2 years for me to trust her, and I recently told her some things that were really hard for me to talk about. It seems wrong somehow to have told her these things and then leave without talking about them or getting any type of resolution...like its just hanging in the air... I know that I need to resolve these issues and do some more work before I feel totally ready to go, but you are right, she will be here when I come back and maybe a change of pace will do me some good