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Originally Posted by WePow
Peaches, sorry I could not reply to your post before now. It has been a very emotional week for me. Very. I did think of you though a lot this week with this whole thing. I do not know who the person was on PC but I think I know. And it made me sad to know that there is so much pain in this world. And it hurts to know that there were no words to help that dear one.
I talked with my T about this on Wed. And he said that a good T does not just leave a client in a way that will hurt them. The T has too much invested in the client's health. It would be like a doctor getting a patient all fixed up only to give them a poisonous cupcake as they were leaving. He told me it should not happen that way in therapy - at all. And he was very mad that a T did that to a client and the result was self termination. He was MAD.
You know what you have with your T. You know it is "for real" even when fear makes you doubt. Let yourself hold onto that. You do deserve that.
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WePow,
Thanks for telling me what your therapist said. I needed to hear that a t worth their salt would NEVER leave a client without support. I do know that this person's t was quite new, and that she did give her a packet of info that she hoped would help her. Her t also wanted her to transition to somebody else, which she would not agree to. So her t did not leave her entirely in the lurch. But in this case, the woman needed continued contact with her t, and should have had it. And that's what bothered me so much.
I wonder if, when her t took the new job, maybe this client never asked for continued contact, but later just wished she had it?? It may be that her need for continued contact never got voiced, and so the t didn't realize it was necessary. We can't really know for sure exactly what happened. But i feel more reassured in hearing from my t, and from your t, that this was an very unusual incident, and that the majority of t's take their clients needs very seriously and do not abandon them in times of need.