(((feddy))) - I'm sorry this is happening but it's good you both realize you don't want a separation. I think you're both caught is a vicious circle. Sometimes loved ones don't know how to react to mental illness and they often get frustrated.

Seems like he had a good idea at 1st by being supportive - he most likely thought he could fix you by being nice. He may have been hurt when that didn't happen, so he withdrew and then you felt abandoned and more hurt. Maybe he even felt neglected and grief over feeling disconnected from you.

I think you need to reassure him, he doesn't have to fix you or feel responsible for your illness, therefore he doesn't have to take it personal. Maybe you both can agree to wipe the slate clean and start fresh. Make a point of doing some fun things together to re-establish that bond. Do some sweet things like sending a nice email or something else he would like - you can both focus on being kind to each other and more thoughtful. Time to nourish your relationship together. I hope everything works out.