I'm curious to this post because in my relationship, I'm the one that's not really interested in sex. Granted, I had a LEEP procedure done two years ago to get rid of cancerous cells on my cervix, and sex hurt very badly for me, so that's part of the reason why I didn't want to have sex then.

I think the reason why I'm not interested in sex NOW is because of the stresses in my life just turn me off and I have no interest in putting my energy towards sex. I miss it, dont get me wrong, it's just that I feel used in parts of my life. I have a crazy home life (husband is unemployed and acts depressed, so he doesn't help out around the house one bit, so I have to cook, clean, take care of pets, a mentally handicapped brother that I have to take care of, AND work 50+ hours a week), so by the time bedtime comes around, I mentally have no energy to be aroused.

Does your boyfriend have a lot of stress in his life that could be holding him back emotionally? And has he ALWAYS been like that, since you started dating?

One thing I've told my husband time and time again (especially after denying him sex because I'm so tired after doing so much housework on top of work-work), is that he is still attractive to me, and I'm still attracted to him, but I'm just mentally not going to be into the moment because I'm tired. Has your boyfriend ever communicated WHY he isn't into sex? Like, was there a childhood trauma maybe?