Dear Wands,, it may be that all the thinking is actually hiding a brain disfunction. i know that for many years, i could say Yes or No, to ONE thing, but as soon as i was offered TWO things, i was lost. i simply could not choose. and if there were Three Things,, oh my, i became distressed~! so, i hit upon a simple solution,, First: tell everyone -- Don't offer me choices~! well, life isn't like that, so Second: ask someone i trust to chose for me~! well, life isn't always accomodating, so in the end, i would just toss a coin 3 times, 2 heads i went with the active choice, 2 tails i went with the passive choice. it worked for me for years. it's actually amazing how many choices really aren't so important that they can't be decided by the toss of a coin~!! anyway, i'm glad you posted on this topic, it reminded me how much i have been able to move on, and i hope that you find that as you relax, your mind also will become less anxious about choosing.