I think most people have a "safe spot" or two, a space they can curl up and just relax. If you feel that way only in T, maybe it is because you don't feel comfortable with yourself, and you need someone there who can validate you and say that you are okay. I think when you are healthy you find that cozy spot and you can be there all by yourself and feel safe. I don't think most healthy people people feel that "curl up and be safe" feeling in lots of places (it's a special feeling!), but I think when you are healthy DO have the "yeah, I feel okay" feeling in lots of places.

At least, I think. That's my impression that I seem to get from my friends who don't have problems with feeling safe. I don't feel safe anywhere either googley, so I can relate. I don't even really feel safe in T because I have such trouble letting go of the way my T perceives me.

I'm glad you've learned to feel safe in T, googley. I think the key is knowing that one day you'll be comfortable expanding that feeling to other places, and experimenting with it, but never trying to FORCE it, because that will only backfire. You will only feel safe with yourself when you are not beating yourself up...