volatile, you are really strong to not only realize that you were in a destructive environment but to actually move away from it. i think salukigirl gave you some good advice. i'd also recommend seeing if he's willing to get help or go to AA meetings. you could also go to al-anon meetings. i too found that i unwittingly was attracting alcoholics (they can be a lot of fun!) and once i noticed that tendency in myself i made sure to notice how much a person was drinking when i first started dating so i wouldn't continue that trend. let us know how it goes and i hope he decides to get help.