I'm sorry for how you are hurting Dottie.

I also have a brother in a similar state- and ironically he has one daughter- although my niece is 20 now. However, my brother uses my niece as an excuse to drink since she was diagnosed with a brain tumor at the age of three and was given 5 years to live back then. She is somewhat disabled now, but functions pretty well under the circumstances. I think my brother believes he can better handle things when he's drunk. He's already spent jail time and has had several DUI's. And yet keeps drinking........

You are a good person to care about your niece and also the innocent people that possibly could be hurt by your brother. I agree with shadowalker --- the alcoholic has to decide to stop in their own mind-- no matter how much someone cares-- that isn't going to make them stop.

If you need to talk I'm just a PM away.

Thinking of you and wishing you well,
mandy