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Originally Posted by BeTrueToYourself
ABUSE is ABUSE.
There are so many forms.
Words can be one of the most painful of all.
If they didn't mean it - It never would have been at the tip of their tongue.
It is a very big way of belittling another as a use of control.
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AGREED.
I loathe yelling...and mostly, name-calling.
Over the years, I've tolerated both from my hub and it has done some serious psychological damage, some which is permanent.
I've realized that, beause of him and his abuse, I have ZERO tolerance for any kind of yelling. And as soon as I hear an insulting name toward me, I immediately go into shut-down mode, (I guess a protective mode). Thing about that is, I no longer seem to have much fight left in me, other than to strive to remove myself from it, (which I'm presently struggling with).
I REFUSE to resort to name-calling, especially toward someone you're "supposed to" love. And I truly believe that if it wasn't meant, it won't be mentioned...PERIOD.
So, yeah. He can apologize all he wants, telling you that he didn't mean it....but the truth remains...If he says it, then it's more likely than not, he means it.
Huggles.
Shangrala
