Hi, Lost, welcome to PsychCentral (PC).

How if your relationship normally? I think only you can tell if you enjoy being with your guy and how his behaviors influence you/your life together?

I've been married to my husband 20+ years and we go to Hooters and both "enjoy" the girls there. But we are comfortable talking about Hooters and looking at Playboy or other magazines together or just discussing what we like/don't like. I think your guy is pretty immature with the photos/videos, he's not 18, but if it were my husband, I'd shrug because I know my husband and what he likes and what he's doing/thinking. If it said it was "just stupid sh--" that's what I would believe.

But you have to look at your relationship and try to separate what you like from what your ex might like (odd to me that you refer to him as your "ex", as if you're not sure you really want to commit to this relationship?). We can't really change another person's preferences, they might be able to but we'll drive ourselves and them crazy if we try to dictate how they behave and what they're supposed to think and feel?