The book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life, mind and sanity after 31 years of verbal abuse (verbal abuse IS emotional abuse); the abuser is taking out his rage and issues on YOU......abusers rarely change ..you can protect yourself by staying away from him as much as possible, and NOT having arguments; they are like vampires and need their "supply"---There supply.....is you.....you constantly explaining yourself. They are extremely insecure and will stop at nothing to CONTROL you; the issue in all abuse....is control. I suggest reading the book (don't let him see you), and getting into therapy for yoursef (never go with the aubuser). Hugs, Sharon