Perna,
I did call two doctors and both said that they couldn't do anything to help him unless he wants help. I do understand that. They can't use a dart gun... It did make me smile thinking about it however! He isn't hurting the kids at all, and he simply "hates" me silently.

Rohag - Two years ago, he fell off a ladder at work and broke many bones and was off work for 9 months. He did not have a head injury, but with all the different pain meds he was on, "I believe" it greatly affected his depression and it began to get worse two months after the fall. He started to get aggressive, verbally nasty, irritable all the time, and had poor judgement when he didn't have this before. I can't say more than all of these behaviors have just intensified over the past two years to this point where he decided to stop taking his meds. I am not sure it was such a bad decision because I don't think they were working much anyway, but the meds were at least keeping his thought process... somewhat rational. Now there isn't any rational thought.

When you say I should conserve my energies what do you suggest?
When you say entrust hubby to higher and expert hands, what do you mean? Let go and let God? THAT I can do but I can't get him to a doctor. He flat out refuses. He refuses to take any further meds. He refuses counseling. I am out of options except to "accept him" for the depressed man he is and just get on with my life with my children and let him wallow where he is. Even with that, he gets upset that I do get on with my life, make decisions that need to be made...
Will he ever realize what is happening or will I have to leave him in order for him to see what he is losing?

StacyMay - thank you for your words and I do think I may have answered your question. Any other thoughts?
I am so sad right now and need to have a good cleansing cry!
BeAtPeace