I have been seperated from my husband now for 13 months. I can now file for divorce. I have talked with several attorneys and just can't make a decision to get the paperwork filed. I hate the idea of divorce but after living in an abusive marriage for 17 years, I am over it!

This is not the first time I have left. The last time was for 6 months. I have no intention on going back. I now have "me" again, which I lost. But I just can't give myself that push to go ahead and get this done and over with.

It needs to be done. I have 3 children at home with me. He has not given me any financial support what-so-ever. Says he can't afford to, but then goes out and buys a souped up camero and pays for it with cash.

Financial abuse is part of it, emotional, sexual, physical. No, I am not wealthy, just barely making it pay check to pay check. We have no "extras". Not even a car at this time. Haven't had one in a year. It is the shop, but can't afford to pay the guy for fixing it.

I don't know why I can't make that final decision. Please help give me that push. Thanks