As adults, we have "permission" to decide what we will or won't do. We are not required by others (especially family) to comply. There are consequences and benefits to nearly every decision. If you decide to NOT go, be sure to plan something more enjoyable for you in it's place. (and YES you may use this as an excuse to not make it home for the holiday! There is life after "family thanksgiving" getogethers! TC of yourself!