Hi dayton52, so sorry this has happened. Beth is right on the mark; family counseling is the best thing you can do right now. My guess is your daughter feels like she is the only one being "punished". Family counseling will not only give you the tools you need to cope, it will show her that you are all in this together. I was a teenager the first time I was put into therapy (ran away every chance I got) and my parents refused to go to family counseling, even though it was strongly recommended. I felt like I had been abandoned and left for good the day I turned 18. It was a long time before my relationship with my parents healed. I hope you can avoid having to go through that.