WOW Petunia! I had read a little bit on Parent Allienation Syndrome when my daughter first stopped talking to me. I mentioned it to my T and she refused to accept it as a "syndrome." There's quite a bit to absorb and think about. "Abuse" seems to be prevalent in both of the articles you've given me. It's always been my "opinion" that it was my ex that abused us all, but I have to admit that I expanded on some of his "discipline" given the fact that my mother was extremely strict with me. To me, it just seemed "right." When I divorced my ex, I realized that a lot of what he called "discipline" sure as hell wasn't! It was control through fear! Wonder just how much of that she still carries with her and blames me for... and rightly so.

One of our problems, though, is that she refuses to talk to me or communicate with me in any way, shape or form. Except for three times in the 8 years that she's felt this way, I haven't tried or even thought of crossing this "boundary" of hers. Well... don't know where I'm going with this.

Thanks so very much for the info you have given me. It's gonna take some time to read, re-read and digest.

Strange, though, when I Googled "complaint child and enmeshment" how I was sent to Borderline Personality Disorder sites. She definitely fits the criteria and there are other reasons that make me believe that's what she has. Her father, while I was married to him, seemed to have different personalities, heard "me" say things I would never say and blamed me for a lot of things that were foreign to me. One of the worst things was that it seemed he could read my mind. I had one experience like that with my daughter. She responded out loud to a THOUGHT I had, just like her dad would. (shiver!!)