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Oct 27, 2010, 04:08 PM
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Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: Fringes of the bell-shaped curve
Posts: 779
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Originally Posted by tryingtobeme
Again I am in a bad place. I have so many feelings piled up very high and I am ready to break down. I want to cry so much but I can't let myself do it. Right now, I want to go back to everything I know, drink, cut, over eat, take to many pills, shoot myself.....all those bad thoughts are not good but are pressing on me really hard.
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 Hi, tryingtobeme. I agree with everything everyone here has already said and only want to add a little. Think about it - it has taken human beings a very long time to develop the requisite intelligence, skills, traits, etc., to be what we are today - and if emotions and the ability to express them were not essential to our very survival as a species, we wouldn't have them nor the ability and need to express them.
All of the alternatives to crying that you listed (drink, cut, overeat, etc.) produce the same effects in the human body and brain that crying does - they all cause the production and release of certain chemicals (endorphins - "feel good" hormones; and dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin - neurotransmitters). These chemicals produce a sense of reduced stress, anxiety, emotional and physical pain, and mental confusion. It is believed that insufficient levels of these chemicals in the brain is a major causal/contributing factor in depression, bipolar disorder, etc. In fact, most meds used to treat depression, BPD, etc., do not contain those chemicals, but are designed to stimulate the production of those chemicals. (There is really good information regarding all of this at WebMD.com in the Mental Health and Depression Health Centers.)
Rather than being babyish, crying is a much safer and more natural and efficient means of stimulating production of these chemicals than self-injury and self-abuse. Physical exercise, certain foods, and even sharing your feelings with others also help to stimulate the production of these chemicals. So, open up those tear ducts and let the waters flow - and do not hesitate to open up and verbally share what you are feeling and experiencing with a compassionate, caring, understanding, and supportive people both here on PC and in your real life.
It's not about what you should or should not feel - it's about dealing with what you are feeling. Take good care of yourself!  lynn09
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(Robert Browning Hamilton; "Along The Road")
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