(((((Junerain))))),

You can not have a reasonable relationship with someone who is not truthful with you. You can not have a loving relationship with someone who is not completely OPEN with you......there is no relationship, it's only a one sided love affair on your side.

Yes, most people have a nice side when they are getting something out of someone they want. The thing is that you can't base a relationship on someone just beine NICE. You have to have a real relationship & you can't have a true relationship with someone who won't listen to you, someone who isn't open & honest with you who keeps secrets & unsaid things to keep you in the dark about what's going on in their life.

Just wondering if your girlfriends that you have are offering any advice? They seem to have been girls who held the same beliefs that you had.....I don't think that the situation that you are in is compatible with the beliefs you were talking about having. I think that you need to get back in touch with your beliefs & make sure that your life is walking in that path.

Personally, I think it would be best if you would just completely break off the relationship....you were wanting to before he landed in jail....now your sympathies are getting in the way of your logic & your real beliefs.....don't let your mind trick you like that.

You can like a nice person, but you can't build a loving relationship of the way this relationship has been......it's just your mind wanting to make it something that it isn't. Better to drop this relationship now while he's in jail. Let the red flags fly when there are too many unknown things going on in a situation let alone a relationship.

There are more men out there who can provide a loving, truthful, & faithful relationship that don't carry old baggage & deception along with them. Like isn't a soap opera & we don't need the drama to keep going. That isn't what God wants for our lives & it shouldn't be what we want for our own lives.

I found that I am better off without anyone than someone who lies by omission or even tells me things to make himself look good.....you also need to realize that you do not need Someone to make your life valuable & there are definitely times when you are better off alone than in a relationship like this.

Be honest with yourself & don't let your mind & heart deceive you

Debbie