Thank you all for the replies. I've been dealing with my hubby who is going in and out of depression over all this. He said he woke up wanting to write a symphony but ended up just eating and poking around on the internet all day. (I've been away for a few days at my mother's, and should be returning home in another day or two). He says he can't do anything or concentrate. It's like some days he seems his normal self, and then some days he's short with me, and yet other days he's just quiet. But all the time he's sleeping if he's not working, and has real problems getting up for work at 10pm. He said today that he wants to sell his old car and use the money to see a therapist for what he finally acknowledges is depression, but he also said this is something he's dealt with since he was a teenager and is afraid that he didn't get help soon enough. Just getting help at anytime helps I told him.