Rhiannon...alot of people see it all as "guy stuff" and he'd swear till death that all the Hooter visits were-for the food. He was with his son,19 and his daughter even went with the both of them once,it seems that they grew up going there(the ex-wife attests to that).The video made me feel like I'd been run over and left in the street-and I found that after the pics so he had to know how bad that would hurt.We did go and see a counselor but hearing him say those words on that tape haunt me.My heart and my brain have been fighting since,I have cried more tears than I can tell you.I could just walk away if I knew he had made any physical contact with someone else.I almost feel like I should hire someone to test that.Is that a terrible thought?? thanks for letting me vent.Tried to send you a private message...got lost