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Originally Posted by Soul Quake
If she were not allegedly borderline, would you still remain this lenient with her? You are coddling her, and in turn enabling this behavior.
She is likely relishing in this attention her ex is giving her whether she admits it or not. Especially if borderline is her problem.
Does she have a therapist?
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Thanks for the response!
I honestly would probably remain this lenient with her even if she wasn't borderline. I'm really not the controlling type, and I like to give suggestions but never make decisions for the other person. I know that this isn't healthy for me or for her. But I don't know how to convince her to stop talking to him without sounding manipulative or controlling.
She used to have a therapist, and she hasn't been on medication for 8 months. I would suggest this to her, it's just that our communication has been nearly completely stifled because of her ex's visit. I feel helpless that I cannot do anything except wait. He knows about her condition, but I don't think he knows anything about it.