sometimes i find that allowing myself to grieve helps..meaning i sit quietly and review the sorrow and loss. i had to divorce my husband and even tho i had to do that i felt sorrow. it's like a death. so allow yourself to feel it rather than trying to avoid it. don't dwell in it but pick times to let the tears flow. it will cleanse you of the sadness. don't know why it works but each time i'd do it the sorrow lessened. hope this helps you. 
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