Thanks rhiannon. I feel like it is my fault because I obviously didn't set my boundaries firm enough in the beginning. But then I think "He didn't have to set boundaries for me to know what is and isn't respectful so why should I HAVE to?" Some of the stuff he says and does just seem like things a 27 yr old man should know not to say and do.

And I kind of feel like he moved here with me to trap me. Like "well I did all this so you can't leave now" type of thing. Just I know I don't have the resources to leave right now and it's really hard to keep a smile going when really I just want out. But I feel that's what I have to do to keep things kosher until the end.

I guess I just wish emotional abuse wasn't so hard to define because any time I bring it up he says well he doesn't hit me, so it's not really abuse. But reading some of these articles, they describe almost word for word what an abuser does and some of it is exactly what he does to me.

Thanks again. I hate needing the reassurance but it helps me get through it.