Slightly off topic:

I do that 'responding to thoughts' thing with my husband and my mother. My husband insists that I read his mind, and apparently has rather heated disagreements with his therapist about it when she tries to tell him that I don't.

Fact is, though, that I don't read his mind. I just know him pretty well -- because I care about him, because I'm focussed on him, and because I have training in focusing on people close to me, for my own protection. I learned to watch the adults around me, because I was afraid of them, because I didn't know what I did wrong most of the time, because I was confused by the whole thing. Mind you, I'm not talking about being an abused child here. I'm just talking about the sort of collateral damage that is often done by parents whose own problems sometimes distract them from healthier parenting. Does that make sense?

I guess it's really the whole 'I'm afraid Mommy won't love me anymore if I'm bad' taken to a whole new level.

{shrug}

Whatever. End result is that I respond to my husband's thoughts, he thinks I read his mind, I know that it's part of my hypervigilance -- because despite the best evidence to teh contrary, I'm still afraid he won't love me anymore if I'm "bad."