If I were you, I would work on your perceptions so you wouldn't need someone else to tell you anything, you'd know that doing what is best for you is all there is. But I would point out that some of your examples did not bother me, I do not want to leave my husband when he does some of those things; the event is never the issue, it's our perceptions and attitudes toward each other.

I habitually leave my husband in the store to stand in the, sometimes, long line and pay and schlep the groceries out to the car, into the trunk, and then from the trunk into the house. I put them away and made the list of what we were buying in the first place, filled the cart and plan/cook the meals. It's what we do.

Occasionally he has told me, in an irritated manner, to hurry up or quit "wasting time". I check with him then; usually he doesn't feel well or his feet are hurting. We talk to each other and it goes back and forth.

When I was sick and/or my asthma was bad, we got in the habit of my sitting in car to wait for him to bring the groceries out; it's not like two people standing in line accomplishes anything?

If we go our separate ways in a store, we always have trouble meeting up again and it usually has me pissed because my arms will be full and he's pushing the cart and has disappeared but I can usually get myself back in a better place if I imagine the opposite situation. Now I tell him what aisle I'm going to or send him to a specific aisle for something or ask/tell him what each of us is looking for or where we're going. It's all a matter of both communicating and practice.

I quoted your sentence above because of it's wording. It was interesting to me that you said you wanted someone to tell you you are not wrong as opposed to saying you wanted someone to tell you you are right. The way you worded it reminds me of how I feel about being lost: I never feel lost because I'm always with me I think getting to where you feel good about what you do and say will help you decide what you want to do with the relationships in your life.

Try not to get tangled in the logistics; love and wanting to be with someone has nothing to do with whether you move to a new place; that's a personal decision and both you and your boyfriend made your two decisions for your individual selves, not the other. You do not "owe" him anything on that score. Guilt trips aren't necessarily abusive, most of them are a matter of immaturity. If you felt good about yourself and knew who you were and what you wanted, no one else could put a guilt trip on you and most of those around you would not even try. I think you and your boyfriend are both just starting out in life and learning. I don't know how you actually feel about him, just him, not what he does for you or how you perceive what he says, etc. but that is what I would find out and base my decisions on: do you want to be with him or not. If not, it probably would be better for you or he or both to leave sooner rather than later for both of you. The rent and other issues are logistics issues. Focus on the relationship only and it will make your relationship issues a bit easier to see?