This past year has been especially difficult for us. His best friend and my best friend died. His mother was suffering with ovarian cancer and passed away in May. My uncle and cousin died. In April, he began to have a melt down with him being hospitalized in May. He started having problems with his sleep, intense anxiety, sadness, crying and suicidality. His work situation played a big part in the stress that he put himself under. They were making changes. Starting classes for supervisors and working foremen(his job title) and computer usuage. My husband can't read and write. He has managed all these years by using his memory and became obsessed with the situation above and lost it. By the way, we have hired tutors in the past and he's gone to adult literacy programs with no progress. But he's had so many other talents( carpentry-he could build anything he wanted or make repairs: he could do electrical wiring; he could work on cars, even owning his own garage and used car business, of course I did the paper work; he could do plumbing). Now he is so anxious and depressed that he's unable to do anything. He's had lots of med changes and as yet no improvement. He feels he's being punished for something, his past sins. I've tried to tell him to take it one day at a time. He's trying to work as the psychiatrist said you can work with depression and anxiety. But I feel he shouldn't be working, he just can't function. He constantly complains of memory loss and not being able to think. He comes home every evening complaining of having a bad day. I'm at my wits end. I used to get up every morning with him and see him off to work. I've quit this as I can't take it morning and night anymore. Nothing I say to him gets through to him. I try to be patient and point out all the positive things in his life to him. He comes up with excuses as to why they're not positive. He's sure they're going to fire him and we'll lose everything we have. I know it's hard to have a positive outlook on life when you're depressed but surely there is someway to get through to him. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
|