Thank you, Gen. This statement: I guess it's really the whole 'I'm afraid Mommy won't love me anymore if I'm bad' taken to a whole new level. could very well be true of my daughter. IMO, it goes along with an overly compliant child's attitude.

Let me tell you the one time my daughter did this to me and see what you think. We were sitting in an outdoor restaurant. She was sitting facing the back and I across from her. A group of men took the table BEHIND her. I looked at one and THOUGHT "he's kind of cute." After a few minutes, she looked at me and said, "BTW, yeah he is cute." As far as I know, she hadn't even looked behind her, but she must have. She insisted that I had said it outloud, but I KNOW I DID NOT! Told her I hadn't said that out loud but she insisted that I had, so I just dropped it. It freaked me just as bad as when her dad did it to me.

When I told my T about how her dad would do this to me, she suggested that maybe he had a "familial spirit." That's all I know and all I want to know about that particular subject. I'm just ever so glad this man has been out of my life for 35 yrs!!