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Oct 29, 2010, 10:12 AM
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Member Since: Jan 2009
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Rhonniee, 
We have definately found that outside people (singletons) have been baffled by the various parts' behaviours. Trying to explain them to a singleton (I'm not fond of this word) is hard, at times. Before help, I had no idea 'why' the person/me/us would do something and then do something completely opposite.
It makes outsiders look at us as not reliable, honest, lacking integrity, behaving emotionally different etc that is until we found therapists who understood the did system. They helped us explain our reasons why and even helped sort through the system to be able to meld a few together after doing some trauma, including neglect and abuse work.
There is hope Rhonniee, if you can maybe focus on some good self care of yourself. Likely, your husband has survived some pretty huge things growing up and it became his survival mode.
I'm always pretty delighted at partners who stick with the survivor and even thrive. It is 'good news'. But remember to take really good care of yourself.  The good therapists have to take care of themselves too. It can be a pretty long process but we think most of us are worth it! 
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Originally Posted by rhonniee
I am new here, my husband has been diagnosed with DID. We have good days and bad days.
I have a question though, can one of the alters do something that is out of character for, I guess, the main person?
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