Hello, beatpeace. Sorry, I am one of those you would like to shoot. I accept the risk.

My thought is your children are being affected, angry men can get violent and you should consider a legal separation. Here is a link you may find useful:

http://www.womansdivorce.com/separation.html

Go to Attorneys in the yellow pages, look for the section on domestic relations and see if any attorneys offer a free initial consultation. Call. Ask about the process of getting a legal separation. Specifically, ask if your husband can be ordered to leave the home. You and your six children have more need of it.

In many states a legal separation is akin to a contingent divorce. All of the issues that would need to be decided in a divorce will be part of the legal separation too. The only difference is that with a legal separation there is a period of time allowed to see if the parties may want to reconcile. If there is a reconciliation, the legal separation becomes a nullity. If not, the legal separation becomes a divorce.

You might also want to talk to a safe shelter or crisis center. These organizations generally have a lot of useful information, including how to put together a safety plan. See: http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/ste...stic-violence/

http://www.thehotline.org/ 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY)

It is not my intention to escalate your fears. Nonetheless, learning as much as you can now will benefit you. Too, you may want to ask yourself Ann Landers's question: Am I better off with him or without him? Perhaps commencing a divorce proceeding is the better option for you?

Finally, I would be derelict without pointing out that the standard of living for women generally greatly deteriorates upon a separation or divorce.

I wish you well.