Hi. I have a daughter. She's adopted. She's now 29 and has a 3 year old son living with her. I adopted her when she was 17 and pregnant with her first child.

She is bi polar. Extremely bi-polar. Until about 2 years ago, she was able to not neccessarily control, but recognize the onset of her rages and remove herself and use some techniques I taught her to calm the rage. It does'nt remove the bi polar but it does help to put her into a calm state more quickly.

Recently, she has been unable...even unwilling to recognize she has a problem that needs to be dealt with. Instead she is using "bi polar" as an excuse to hurt people. She has become cruel, completely self absorbed even when she not having an episode. She has begun lying about everything. If she makes a bad decision, she will completely destory someone elses character just to convince people she was wronged thus making the problem " not her fault". She is very smart and very convincing and has hurt many people by staging things and spreading untruths. She is completely disrespectful to me unless she wants money and if she gets the money she becomes completely disrespectful again once she has it.

her bio mother is...I don't know the diagnosis but she's bad with it whatever it is.

There may be something other than bi polar that is creeping in as she gets older but I have no idea what. She refuses to get help. The free mental health places want to throw drugs at her within 15 minutes and I agree that's wrong. They should at least talk to her a few times before they diagnose and prescribe. But she finds the money to go to 120 dollar ticket concerts and goes on road trips etc... but she won't use the same money to get a real shrink.

I have stuck with her all this time. I have let her ruin my reputation and still I love her and have helped her and stood by her. Even though it is a psych problem... I gotta say I am at the end of my rope with her. I will honestly say I want to remove her from my life. I don't want to talk to her or email her or see her. I have panic attacks just thinking about talking to her. But I will always love her. I am concerned about my grandson. He lives with this daily.

I don't know what to do.