well your life has gone thru many changes recently with the divorce. you will now be creating a new life for yourself. sometimes things we are familiar with is more comfortable than change, even if it's for the better. be kind to yourself. i'm sure you would comfort a good friend...try to do the same for you. when we women are married we often times lose ourselves being wife, mother, 'maid", etc. so this too may take some practice. i'm thinking like lit candles, bath salts, warm bath soak for starters. the first time i did it i couldn't even relax. it was so foreign to me to do something for just me.