You said you are divorcing because you "love each other" WHAT? if you love your husband then you should put his feelings ahead of this friend. I am not advocating controlling behavior, but come on, this is the man you married. If you truly want your marriage to work you will do what you can to seek counsel. There are churches out there, and I intern at a facility where grad students charge 10.00 for therapy. I hope you have thought this through. Good luck.