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Well even that is a "relative" rule, not an absolute. For example it wouldn't hold true that if you had an accident and fractured your leg, and your family needed transportation to get haircuts... it wouldn't be expected that you ignore your broken leg and drove them to the barber simply because "family" comes before "oneself"

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Yes...I see your point and its very sound...makes me feel foolish for not being able to solve this problem myself...or at least rationalized the best method of action.

I have been think about the situation (maybe too much for my own good) and I think that I just might not go. What will be my reason for not going? I have no idea, but hopefully they will not make such a simple issue something huge.

But on the other hand...I'm getting to point where I think problems need to be fixed rather than avoided...but I have been down that road before and several times over I have learned the lesson of, "you can't change others who don't want to be changed."

To be honest my family is really all that I have (never been good at making close friends) and I would hate to be disowned for this...I do not know what I would do with no one around - even those who have hurt me.

Thanks again Dexter - "your wisdom runs like water"