Well, I kind of thought it went without saying. Everyone here knows what bi polar is like. yes depressive and manic episodes. The manic can be extreme rage or hyper happy ( happy isnt the right word. I'm not sure what is. Like she will take the world by storm. Top of her game. ) I used to be bi polar myself, but it was a different type. can't remember what is was. ( yes used to be. It disappeared with a bout of brain damage ) It's one of the reasons I could handle her when previous foster homes could not. I understood because I've been through it myself.

So bi polar/ borderline perhaps. I'm not terribly familiar with borderline. When she was 17/18, both a psychologist and psychiatrist dianosed her as bi polar. At that point in time she refused to take meds so I taught her a few techniques to help.

I did'nt think rage was part of bi polar either but i was watching discovery health and they had a show on bi polar and they say it is in certain cases and showed examples. She fit the examples. I was thinking perhaps the rage was part of whatever else was wrong with her and overlapped those manic episodes at times. So I don't know what to think now.

"devaluing"...no. She maintains their value for herself while destroying their reputation with everyone else. Always in order to make herself look better or innocent in a given situation. I will read the article though.

Evidently whomever she is seeing now also says she is bi polar. So that's 3 diagnosis plus my observations from having been bi polar myself. BUT I do think there is a personality disorder on top of this. OH..she may have brain damage as well. never had an MRI done. her step father when she was about 12, put her head through a glass cabinet into the wall. She says she was different before that. Her biological sister who she has'nt seen since she was 12 also has a diagnosis of bi-polar.

Absolutely no substance abuse. She's scared to death of drugs which is why it took her this long to agree to psych meds. She took a VERY occasional valium only when she could'nt get it together. That was just for a couple of months. The doctor only gave her like 15 of them. They practically had to be force fed to her. She also has to take regular drug tests for work. Keeping a job though is not her strong suit. The one she is at now, she seems to be doing very well with though.

I think if she's borderline it's on top of the bi polar. I am going to read up on borderline, so thank you very much !