[quote=SakuraLi;1550135]Hello, after all my research, postings on here and soul searching I have decided its best to leave my mentally ill boyfriend.

I`d honestly like for him to leave me. I really need out NOW but I just need a way out that is the most pleasant for him.

I need to leave because I`m very depressed unhappy and need to think about my own wellbeing now.

I know Im in serious need of therapy not just about this relationship but for everything in my life. quote]

Dear SkuraLi,

This must be a very hard decision for you to make, but an important one if it has come to this stage. You shouldn't back down out of pity because that is devaluing your own feelings and that isn't a good thing. You have support here too, not judgement.

I can understand you wanting him to leave you because it absolves you of any responsibility and from your point of view it means you are not hurting him because it is his choice, his decision. It just doesn't happen that way and I'm really sorry because I know what you mean and I think you deserve a break.

It's really good that you know you need a therapist; some people are in such denial about the fact, and try to battle through but become more confused. I really hope you find an excellent therapist who can help you.

Thank you too for being brave enough to be totally honest, because it is that step in sharing your truth which allows you to prepare for the coming seperation.

As Belle has said, just be honest with him; that is the best and fairest thing to do (Belle has never been wrong yet with her gentle and caring truth), because it is pointless leaving him to think things are ok when factually they're not ok.

I really and trully hope that you find the strength for this but if you don't then we are here to support you. Being the significant other of someone with mental illness is not an easy thing to do, but heck you gave it more than enough, and I honour that.

Thinking of you and sending my support,
Rhiannon