I think we dwell on things that are completely nonsense, or dwell on issues that we feel NEED to resolve because it's the human nature to find answers to everything. If it wasn't then we wouldn't know so many things about life we do today.. but even so there are things we just CAN'T figure out the reason to, so we cannot resolve them, but we insist and insist upon it instead of just letting it go.

I get that anger, when people do things that are so utterly stupid, or if someone is just a completely jerk for no reason what so ever. I get mad not only because it makes no sense to me, but because it affects me and I'm dwelling on it. The more I dwell the angrier I get and the angrier I get the more I dwell. The cycle continues, and I pull my hair out from stress and frustration.

I think it all comes down to being able to work with your emotions instead of trying to fight them. I know that if I rant to myself on a journal (which is letting myself feel angry), by the time I'm half way through or finished, I won't care anymore about my issue. I can move onto other things right away, without irritating other people with my anger or stressing myself out keeping it all inside. But in reality, typing out that long 600 paragraph essay on how my ex bf is a total jerk, doesn't do anything! It doesn't solve my problem; it doesn't tell me why he's an insensitive, selfish, crybaby; it doesn't make him feel bad or care about what he did; but it helps me get over it.

You just gotta find something that works for you! For some it's exersie, other's screaming, beating things up, writing, painting, dancing, songwriting, composing, etc. There's usually something out there for everyone!