Yup I know about cognitive therapy, all to well, and I think the odd time he is trying to mess with me abit, by throwing things around like what isn't he doing this and that, trying to make me doubt my relationship which isn't going to happen. I'm cautious now that this was brought up, I didn't think of it that way before.

Nope I don't care that he goes on that trip without me, as long as he phones when he arrives so I know that he got there ok. Skiing and winter sports isn't my thing at all. Besides it's a guy thing with his dad and his ski buddies. YeahI can understand you when you say to not let him to tell me what is right and wrong in the relationship. I don't let what he says about that bother me. I know what I have and I love it. Perhaps in his mind he sees that as something that is negative and feels that he could do better? I don't know 6 yrs is a long time.

I would never cast doubt on my bf or judge him in anyway, he's my guy, love him to peices... I wouldn't let any one mess with that.

You are right dexter about the manipulating part, my psychiatrist through out that warning to be the other day during the session, and now i'm being cautious now that I have seen it.

I don't know what he thinks he will get out of this. I told him that if it came down to a choice between him and my current it would be my current, I have 4 yrs with him besides I can't be with someone who runs all the time, that cannot keep promises that is unpredictible in behaviour, and is not all together there. I told him I was his friend, that I wish the best for him and I hope that oneday he will be happy. At least he hasn't been phoning yet since our meet. At least he has a job which keeps him busy...

I just want him to be able to move on and seek out a healthy relationship that works for me, he's tried to but doesn't feel worth it etc. Feel bad for him...

I know I shouldn't, he did mention rape to me, I guess it was a threat 6 yrs ago, should take that as a red flag?