hi belle, i think it takes time for hurt or sad emotions to become less intense. it's like grieving for someone who died. as time moves forward it becomes less intense. so try not to be so hard on how you are feeling. it's a natural thing. as for how to stop feeling...well then life would be flat don't you think? course i realize this is a difficult time for youbut time will heal your heart. it's ok to let those feelings out. i get in a quiet place and allow myself to cry until i can't cry anymore. i acknowledge my pain. i envision my hurting self as a friend that i am trying to comfort. i assure her that things will get better because things will get better. i don't know why it helps but it does.
meanwhile we care about you and know we are here for you