I have been married for 9yrs together for 13yrs. We have two young children. I'm not happy in my marriage. I don't know if it's all about him or is it really all about me. I love him but never felt head over heals in love with him but always thought he would be good for me and even thought there was a feeling inside of me that wasn't sure I decided that marrying him was a good thing to do. He has been good for me in many ways but on an emotional level I don't feel that way. I almost feel like I've been lying to myself for all these years and now I'm trying to make peace with that by finding some happiness or comfort for being in this marriage (I feel like I'm lying to myself for staying in this marriage because I'm not finding this marriage fullfilling). My husband doesn't spend much time with me but is great about being supportive in my individual interest. He won't go to marital counseling

I would like to find this marriage fulfilling but not sure that can happen.

Is there anyone else out there with this feeling of being unsettled in their marriage?

PS - he is taking me out next Sat for a nice dinner out but that doesn't magicly make me love him.